Alan Jackson‘s daughter Mattie Selecman, now Mattie Smith, is married! The author tied the knot with Connor Smith over the weekend, sharing a few photos of the occasion on social media.
Wooooo we did it!!” Mattie captured the photos. “Grateful is a gigantic understatement. More pretty pics to come later – off to the islands with my HUSBAND!”
In September, Mattie announced she was engaged to Smith, after he surprised her with a proposal
“Well… came down for a beach week to celebrate my sweet man’s 30th birthday. Didn’t know we’d end up celebrating choosing the rest of our lives together!!” Selecman sait at the time,s haring a series of photos of the couple.
“Feeling overwhelmingly thankful, excited, and thrilled for this kind-of-surprise but so-fervently-prayed for ENGAGEMENT,” she added. “I love your playful spirit and your kind heart and your infectious-ness for life, Connor Smith. I cannot wait to be your wife and build a family with you! You are the biggest blessing in the dang cutest package. Love you baby.”
The wedding comes more than four years after Mattie’s first husband, Ben Selecman, passed away from injuries he sustained after falling on a boat dock. Mattie wrote about his loss, and how she recovered, in her book Lemons on Friday, released in 2021.
“When I lost my husband, the only way I really knew to process it was to write,” Selecman told Everything Nash. “I grew up in a songwriting family and it came to a point where I thought that if this is cathartic for me, maybe hearing me talk about my grief and my faith and its role in that would be cathartic for somebody else.”
Writing Lemons on Friday, and reliving the pain of her tragic loss, was incredibly difficult, but also helped her heal in the process.
“It was certainly not easy, but I think real healing never is,” she reflected. “It takes courage. And as we know, again God’s grace and strength to do it. But I remember reading C.S. Lewis’s memoir, when he lost his wife. I finally felt like everything in me that I didn’t know how to express was on paper in his book. And I thought, if mine can do this for other people, then it’s gotta be out there, and it’s gotta be honest and transparent. I can’t hold anything back.”
Mattie met her now-husband in March of 2022, and it didn’t take long for sparks to fly.
“Six months ago today I met one of my best friend’s brother-in-law for happy hour with no expectations besides a little fun,” Selecman wrote when announcing their relationship. “Well, four hours later, drinks turned to dinner, and from that day til now, he has been one surprise after another. I have believed, prayed, and claimed for three and a half years now that God would give me the chance to love someone with my whole heart again. Other dear widow friends assured me that my heart could heal and expand to love two people equally, though differently. And I hoped so desperately that would really be true.
“This man is more of an answer to prayer (mine and countless others!) than I sometimes think he even realizes,” she continued. “Beyond his playful, generous, childlike spirit (the kind that I always seem to fall for), he has this wonderfully tender heart that I didn’t even know I needed. Empathy, intentionality, and encouragement are his default mode, and not for a minute have I been anything but [100 percent] unapologetically myself. I couldn’t imagine anyone holding my losses and my dreams, my faults and my faithfulness, my sarcasm and my crazy competitiveness – shoot, every single part of who I am and what I’ve gone through – with such respect and appreciation and honor.”
Photo Credits: Mattie Jackson Smith/Instagram